by Bryan Bushman, Ph.D. | Apr 24, 2025 | News Letter
Saying “yes” to everything (and everyone) has a cost. Before we talk about the fine art of saying “no”, let’s count the costs of saying “yes” indiscriminately…(1) A person with an inability to say “no” will soon find herself psychologically depleted. Saying yes...
by Bryan Bushman, Ph.D. | Mar 24, 2025 | News Letter
The last newsletter focused on self-forgiveness; the internal process involved with owning our mistakes. But what about the external process? In other words, what is a good way to go about making amends or apologizing to? Not all apologies are created equal....
by Bryan Bushman, Ph.D. | Mar 10, 2025 | News Letter
To err is human,” we’re told, but we sometimes aren’t told how to move on after we’ve messed up – other than to feel lousy about it. Acts of commission or omission can haunt us and/or hold us back emotionally. First, if you struggle with this issue, it’s important for...
by Bryan Bushman, Ph.D. | Jan 11, 2025 | News Letter
The ability to delay gratification (or the ability to wisely wait) is a skill worth developing. Psychological research suggests self- control is correlated with a person’s long-term success and happiness to a greater extent than other significant factors, like high...
by Bryan Bushman, Ph.D. | Dec 11, 2024 | News Letter
I am watching my 4-year-old daughter sleep during one of her recent naps. Suddenly, an unbidden thought comes to my mind: she may die of cancer someday. My daughter is not sick, but I used to work with such kids, and my mind is flooded with images of what losing her...
by Bryan Bushman, Ph.D. | Nov 11, 2024 | News Letter
Unlike their peers, scientific research suggests persons with a history of depression and/or trauma tend to interpret the negative events of their lives according to 3 “P” words:•Permanent: The negative thing (or something like it) will keep happening in the...
