In last month’s newsletter, we discussed how we can tell ourselves either contamination stories or growth stories about our past. Contamination stories suggest things are fixed. We label ourselves as being “losers”, “broken” or undeserving of love. Growth stories, in contrast, suggest that things are not fixed: we experienced a difficult loss (instead of being a loser), we feel disappointed (instead of being broken), and we don’t currently feel connected (instead of being undeserving of love).
